Gardening: It Grows You
Gardening, good for the body, the mood and soul, or so they say.
What is it that makes Gardening so attractive for people? What makes it good for us?
If it is so good for us what is it that holds us back from going out into the outback, our own wilderness?
How can we get over our barriers to creating our hideaway. our oasis of calm?
Is Christmas good for you?
Many people just don’t like Christmas. It’s not that they are Ba Hum Bug, they just don’t care.
There can be genuinely understandable reasons for this. So can a person who is just not into Christmas enjoy Christmas?
How do you have a happy time over Christmas when you’d rather it just didn’t exist?
Loss and Rememberance
The death of a loved one is the greatest trauma we can go through. Death is not the only sever loss we can experience in life. The counselling process with loss is slow and a process of learning to understand the experience and the emotions from the loss.
There are tools that you can use to help with the loss. Also many theoretical models exist to help you understand the process of working with your grief.
Failure - The fear around every corner
The fear of failure is one of the greatest draws holding a man back in life. The fear of failing at risky things like a new job or at passing exams etc. is perfectly normal. The problem is when you begin to identify yourself as a failure at life just because you have had failures in your life.
This self identifying yourself as a failure is devestating. It destroys your confidence in social situations, professionally, your role in your family. Simply put you don’t want others to know about your failures and you hide.
The way to shake off the failure mantra is to teach yourself first and foremost failing is normal. Everyone fails.
Repeat to yourself “I am not afailure, just because somethings in my life failed”.
Eventually you will then be able to develop ways to manage failure as it happens and to learn from it so as to decrease its risk of return.