Nurture your Inner Child
Relieving childhood fun does not mean you become a child again. It does not mean you abandon all adult responsibility and common sense.
Reliving childhood fun does mean you are alowing yourself to remember what was good in your youth. You are recharging your batteries to deal with your adult realities.
there can also be healing in remembering that your youth was not all bad.
Prevail’s approach to the porn debate
Porn is a pervasive part of our society. That said, it rarely comes up in the counselling room. That reflects how accepted it is in our culture. But still, the debate exists as to whether it suits you.
Some argue that porn is destructive for genuine sexual relationships and that it isolates people. Others say that porn plays a productive part in their relationships and helps educate them about the practicalities of sex.
Perhaps the context for discussing porn is not about physical enjoyment but the actual purpose and nature of sexual relationships in the first place.
Indiana Jones and the Idol of Eternal Youth
When is old too old? The perceptions of the last Harison ford Indiana Jones film were that Ford was too old to play the role. According to our cherished memories, yes, he was.
But why can’t we let our heroes grow old?
Do we hold to a belief of eternal youth that is offended when we see our action heroes become slow and weak?
Surely we can believe, as Indy did, that there’s life in the old dog still?
Failure - The fear around every corner
The fear of failure is one of the greatest draws holding a man back in life. The fear of failing at risky things like a new job or at passing exams etc. is perfectly normal. The problem is when you begin to identify yourself as a failure at life just because you have had failures in your life.
This self identifying yourself as a failure is devestating. It destroys your confidence in social situations, professionally, your role in your family. Simply put you don’t want others to know about your failures and you hide.
The way to shake off the failure mantra is to teach yourself first and foremost failing is normal. Everyone fails.
Repeat to yourself “I am not afailure, just because somethings in my life failed”.
Eventually you will then be able to develop ways to manage failure as it happens and to learn from it so as to decrease its risk of return.
Violence in the Inner Man
Are men naturally violent? Is the aggressive response of men always a bad thing? There are lots of questions we have about men and violence. One thing that most will accept is that men are generally more aggressive than women and that this aggression can be very destructive.
The source of aggressive behaviour would seem to be partly learned through social expectations and partly biological through testosterone.